From Bad, to Good, to Great. Make Your Relationship Really Happen!
Post date: 2005-01-24
Surprised, weren't you'!! You thought that once you had caught the One You Wanted that it was all downhill from there. You thought the challenges were behind you and that "happily ever after" just naturally would fall into place. Yeah, sure, that's the way it was in all the storybooks when you were a kid, and in the movies when you were in young adulthood
Besides that, remember the thrill of that initial surrender after the chase? Oh man! After such a victory, could anything ever possibly have gone wrong after that?
Yes.
You don't know how it happened, but one day you woke up after catching your tiger by the tail and you realized things weren't continuing to develop in the ways you had always dreamed they would. Worse, you couldn't quite put your finger on what was wrong.
But deep inside you knew. You knew the relationship was faltering, and you had no idea how to salvage it. To be honest, though, you weren't totally sure how you'd won him or her in the first place. But if something wasn't done soon, eventually you'd lose them!
For some of you, it's your partner you feel slipping away. For others of you, it's yourself. But no matter how you slice it, this is a relationship going nowhere fast.
You could abandon it, but something tells you that if this relationship doesn't have potential nothing else you can find ever will either. No, there's only one choice and that is to try to save this one, if you can only figure out how!
That's the frustrating part. How do you save it? Some people go to friends for advice, but we all know how that goes. Ninety-nine percent of the time that turns out to be "the blind leading the blind". Others try going to counseling. But if your partner is uncooperative, or plain won't go, you again run into a brick wall.
Isn't there some way of working this out for yourself? Some way to educate yourself on the psychology of a romantic relationship so that you can help yourself? After all, doesn't the proverb tell us, "Physician, heal thyself!"'!!
We are so pleased to tell you that there is a way. But before we tell you what it is, we have to tell you how it came to be.
HOW LOVE TACTICS CAME TO BE
Once upon a time many years ago there was a young man who was fairly naive about girls. Oh, he liked them alright. He liked them a lot! But mostly from afar. He didn't have a clue as to how to begin a relationship.
Through high school he mostly just sat back and watched the jocks escorting their girlfriends up the hallways, wondering how it was done. He knew he had romance potential, as there were a number of girls that he was aware had crushes on him, but still the ones he really wanted were out of his reach.
One day he decided to take the leap and ask one out who he really liked. The rejection he bore from the attempt stung his ego, but it set in motion a chain of events that has lasted to this present day, some thirty-plus years later.
He went home from the spurning he had received and he got out a piece of paper. He then said to himself, "I don't want that to ever happen again. I am determined to make myself into a guy that every girl in this world would want! Now, what would it take'" and he began writing on a piece of paper.
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