3 hints to help your single friends
Post date: 2005-07-05
It happens to all of us at some point in our lives: We're in a relationship; we're happy; and suddenly all of our single friends seem miserable. If you've been single while many of your friends are sustaining intimate relationships, you know how difficult this can be. You find yourself asking, "What am I doing wrong?" and "Is there something wrong with me?" If you find yourself in the fortunate position of someone who's in a relationship, offer this sage advice to your friends who aren't:
1. Remind them that dating and being single has its perks.
The time between relationships can be a blast. Go out with friends and have some fun; introduce yourself to people you find attractive. Enjoy the freedom of being responsible for only yourself. Being single means you have the privilege of dating several different people, making new choices about who you want to be in a relationship with and creating change in your life. Of course, being in a relationship shouldn't hinder your chances to create change in your life, but it does offer certain limitations. When you're single, you have only your own needs to consider— you have access to a freedom that only comes with being single.
2. Remind them to use this time to strengthen self-relationships.
This is your opportunity to look within yourself and question what's really important to you. If you've been wanting to take up jogging, yoga, voice lessons — whatever — being single is a great time to do it and to reflect on how you want to grow more as an individual. Ultimately, we all want a healthy, intimate relationship that fosters this type of growth, but when you have to consider someone else's schedule, plans and interests, you can't luxuriate in this kind of self-exploration. If you take the time to do that when you're single, you can make better choices when selecting partners in the future.
3. Finally, remind them that they have options.
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Being single also offers you the opportunity to pursue some of the people you are attracted to that you meet everyday. Is that food server at the lunch spot you frequent still chatting you up? What about the your neighbor who lives two doors down that always wants to talk while washing the car on Saturday afternoons? How about the sexy owner of the flower shop? When you're single, asking someone on a date is exciting, adventurous and just plain-old practical. And that's something you definitely can't do when you're in a relationship.
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