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Confidence-Boosting Tips for Dating
Post date: 2005-10-03
Okay, I'm not ashamed to admit it, I'm as shy as a mouse when I'm around a guy I want to talk to. I was raised being quiet in the house, so it's not easy for me to be around guys I want to approach. Sending emails is too forward sometimes for me, so I prefer to "send a smile", it's easier on the nerves.
Once I'm comfortable around a guy I'm dating, I don't have any problems. I'ts getting past that first awkward date or two that has me quivering! I'm gonna give you the lowdown on what really worked for me, when I want to be more confident around the guy I am trying to see. Here goes:
How to Build Confidence Dating, Online and In Person
"Hey check out the guy with the cute eyes over there!". Well that's what I may be thinking, but I would never in a million years work up the nerve to go tell a guy that! Gimme a break. He'd think I was, like, easy.
First dates have to be the hardest - I mean, I hardly know what the guy's supposed to look like, and when I see him what do I say? "Hi I'm Stacy, your date.". I don't think so. So let me share a secret or two on how I get up my nerve to talk to guys I'm meeting for the first time. It might help you guys, too - to get a girl's perspective.
Their Stuff Stinks, too: Don't put anyone else above yourself, or vice versa. We're all equal. Well, ok maybe some of us are cuter than others. But the point is, when you're meeting someone, remember it's on equal footing. They're not better than you, or the other way around. Don't work too hard to impress, just be yourself and see if there's a fit. Imaging them weaing a diaper on their head - it's funny! Don't take it all too seriously.
Keep it Light - You'll Get Over it: I used to make dating into a big journey of self esteem.. if I was dating, I was happy, if I wasn't, I felt like a leftover. In Japan, unmarried girls over 30 are called "christmas cake", eg leftover cake after it's too late. That's terrible! Well, when you're dating, same thing, don't worry about being left over, or not accepted. Just find peace within yourself, that's attractive. Someone who is trying too hard to please, is seen as weak. Be a samurai, not a geisha!
Don't Try to Be What they Want: Now this is easier than it sounds. What I mean is, you gotta know yourself, your limits -- be yourself and see how that goes over with them. If you sense that they want you to be like someone else (a past girlfriend!) take a walk.
Dress to Impress (Yourself): I don't know about you, but me, I feel best when I'm dressed well. I'm a lot more confident. So, keep your appearance up, and wear fresh, clean clothes - this helps you stay positive and have a good self-image. Knock em dead! Your walk, your confidence, will shine through and be attractive
Dating is Like a Box of Chocolates: You never know what you'll get, til you take the chance, and go on that date. Think of your next date as "the next one of 100", to put yourself in the frame of mind, that all is not lost if this doesn't turn out to be "the one" .. have fun, learn to laugh at yourself, and enjoy the journey.
Much of what you find in your dates, will help you decide what you Don't want from a person - this is important to learn too. The guy who talked all night? The guy who only talked about how bad his ex was? The guy who wouldn't give you a straight answer? All of that, your "Mr. Wrong" experiences, helps you know what you really Do want, in comparison. So, learn, relax and enjoy it!
Ok gang, that's my ideas for confidence - it's always attractive to someone when your humble and confident, not weak and second guessing yourself. So, get that chin up and start exploring new people today!
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